Readers who would like to better understand what this increasingly visible way of relating is all about will find answers here. Love is central to all of our lives, yet rarely so comprehensively explored. Polite company eschews talk of religion, politics, and sex - especially the misperceptions surrounding polyamorous living. For those interested in a global perspective on open relating, this is the book to read. He approaches the subject with a refreshingly open mind and uses his extensive background in psychology to make this a very informative and enjoyable read.
Without judgment, she explores this increasingly common practice, and reveals the true nature of a lifestyle that many do not understand. I have heard about the concept of polyamory online and thought it was something that could only happen in the 21st century. I didn't go into reading this book but I was pleasantly surprise! However, the organization of this material is somewhat disjointed. It could change the very nature of counseling. Anapol covered several different things regarding jealousy from a physical, spiritual and cultural standpoint. I prefer a book that does more than present the data to me. Anapol addresses the practical, the utopian, and the shadow sides of this intriguing, mysterious, yet often threatening lifestyle.
I certainly don't agree with all of Dr. It is written plainly, not self-indulgent or pretentious, unlike the Ethical Slut which is provocative, impractical and slightly ridiculous. The author seems to think, incorrectly, that being transsexual is a third sex, when in fact it is not. This is the first book on the topic written for a general audience, for both those interested in practicing polyamory and those who have no intention of doing so. Dossie Easton, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist; co-author of The Ethical Slut Polyamory in the 21st Century is a thoughtful, wide-ranging and well-balanced consideration of the current state of polyamory worldwide.
Depending upon your reasons for hesitation, you might unconsciously subscribe to a polyamorous lovestyle. Her chapter on jealousy-one of the thorniest issues in polyamory-is intelligent, insightful, and very practical, and one of the best things I've ever read on the subject. Another blockbuster work in the sexual revolution! But besides that I find one topic pretty lacking, especially for a book that carries the '21st century' around: The internet, especially the kind many of us carry around with our smartphones. There are a few weak chapters, especially toward the end of the book, but I am very impressed with her overall sagacity in her approach to polyamory and the way she was able to communicate that approach in this book. Dico menandri eum an, accusam salutandi et cum, virtute insolens platonem id nec. I found the discussion on issues surrounding jealousy to be very well written, although the final couple chapters felt a bit more touch-feely than I really needed.
In Chapter One, she defines polyamory for the sexually sheltered and mildly curious. If you are new to poly and just trying to understand different ways of doing it, this book is a great introduction to looking at the many styles of poly relationships and families that exist. As I recognize in my own work with couples, too often sexual issues are hidden behind the presented issues like, poor communication, emotional distance, anger or depression. By Ellen Todd I have been a follower and fan of Dr. I'll repeat myself: the plural of anecdotes is not data! I wouldn't recommend this book to someone unfamiliar with the subject, this is more of filler to make you feel rooted in polyamory. Recommended for: absolutely no one.
But for the lack of non-privileged people amongst the polyamorous? Anapol's book Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits, was the very first poly book that I ever read way back in high school and helped me to get some direction for my thoughts about it. Chapter Four delineates the ethical system necessary to maintaining happiness and nurturing openness amidst sundry lovers. People who do practice polyamory will find a careful analysis of the lifestyle and the various issues, concerns, and rewards that grow out of this lifestyle. Anapol draws on her nearly 30 years at the heart of the movement, including her experience counseling thousands of poly and would-be-poly clients and her many discussions with the movement's movers and shakers. Anapol addresses the practical, the utopian, and the shadow sides of this intriguing, mysterious, yet often threatening lifestyle.
Polyamory, the practice of sharing love and intimacy with multiple partners in open, respectful, and authentic ways, is a style of love that came into being in the United States in the second half of the 20th century. The polyfidelitious carbon molecule would be completely out of place in an exclusively pair-bonded world. Overall, the information was presented well and I greatly appreciate it, I just didn't really enjoy reading it. So, among the Inuit for example, where women could pursue sex with other men, the women traditionally oversaw the family's economy. You might find the stories of the people living polyamorous interesting, but if that's your interest you can also read some blogs or reddit. Any attempt to review Dr.
Anecdotes and personal experiences allow the reader to develop a better understanding of polyamory and the people who practice and enjoy it. Thoughtful, informative, and, for me, personally transformative, I just read it and I will definitely read it again! Anapol quotes surveys done amongst participants exclusively recruited through organized poly communities and thinks that those surveys show that polyamorous people in general are better educated, have a higher household income and all the other good stuff. The essential dynamic as he states it is the ability of the couple to engage in open, honest and mindful dialogue with each other. Various chapters deal with the history of human bonding, jealousy that may arise in these relationships, polyamory in other world cultures, children issues, and the movement's pros and cons. I was surprised that there was a full chapter on jealousy.
Polyamory means having simultaneous close emotional, and possibly sexual, relationships with two or more other individuals with the knowledge and consent of all partners concerned. Still, I found this to be a good survey on relatively current issues on non-monogamy. Chapter Two discloses the types of people who choose polyamory and why. This book provides strong guidance on those devilish details, giving very insightful advice, commentary, and anecdotes about the day-to-day management of a polyamorous lifestyle. Writing for The Examiner, Sadie Smyth describes Insatiable Wives as an in-depth look at the psychological, biological and sociological forces that impact the decision-making process of men who find sexual and psychological fulfillment in the knowledge that their wives maintain relationships with other lovers, as well as the motivation behind the women's choice to do so.
I was surprised that there was a full chapter on I didn't go into reading this book but I was pleasantly surprise! What's also nice is the chapter on polyamory worldwide that includes stories from countries other than the United States, amongst others China, India and parts of Europe are included. After reading this book, I frantically sprinted back to the safety of my blissful monogamy. Most of the key references are documented in the bibliography, but not all. Passive trans erasure is found throu The writing of the book is as if it were written in the 1980s or 90s, as opposed to the 21st century, which it is supposed to be about. Even among individual women, the more economically independent a woman is, the greater her chances of engaging in infidelity, and the more personal value she puts upon her sexual satisfaction. The author gives lots of examples from her practice as a therapist, and doesn't push her point of view.